Dating someone who gets cold sores
In a way, he lied to me, saying his tests were 'clean' when in fact he's been tested positive.I was fine until Friday when he told me he was tested positive for HSV-1. 80% of people today would test positive for HSV-1 so basically if that is a problem for you don't date at all because you are looking for a needle in a haystack. Fw-300 #ya-qn-sort h2 /* Breadcrumb */ #ya-question-breadcrumb #ya-question-breadcrumb i #ya-question-breadcrumb a #bc .ya-q-full-text, .ya-q-text #ya-question-detail h1 html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-text html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] #ya-question-detail h1, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] #ya-question-detail h1 #Stencil . Bdend-1g /* Trending Now */ /* Center Rail */ #ya-center-rail .profile-banner-default .ya-ba-title #Stencil . Bgc-lgr #ya-best-answer, #ya-qpage-msg, #ya-question-detail, li.ya-other-answer .tupwrap .comment-text /* Right Rail */ #Stencil . Bxsh-003-prpl #yai-q-answer, #ya-trending, #ya-related-questions h2. Fw-300 .qstn-title #ya-trending-questions-show-more, #ya-related-questions-show-more #ya-trending-questions-more, #ya-related-questions-more /* DMROS */ .The other day, a friend made a nasty comment about herpes in front of me and then quickly apologized. I told him that I'd seen the Abreva in his medicine cabinet once after I asked to steal some Q-tips, but he hastily got defensive and rambled about how he'd "really gotten only one cold sore in his entire life." What he meant was, "Cold sores don't count as herpes."The last time I had heard that stupid, godforsaken sentence was just after I had been diagnosed with herpes simplex virus 1 — the same strain that causes cold sores on your mouth — on my genitals."I wasn't sure if you'd be offended," he said, kindly thinking of my dirty, herpetic soul."It's no big deal," I said, "I mean, don't you have it too? A guy I was dating at the time went down on me, as you do, with no disclosure of previous cold sores he'd had. This dopey-ass, Soundcloud-having, Vimeo-Plus-subscribing dude had a Valtrex prescription for his frequent cold sores — one he hadn't been using — but didn't think that going down on me could transmit anything.Many people only have an outbreak perhaps once or twice a year for maybe two weeks at a time, and you can feel it coming on so you can avoid kissing at that point.
When he told me this, I got upset, because at the time of the std test, when I asked him how it went a few months ago when he tested, he replied with 'the results came back clean,' which to me mean all was good. Now if it was someone I was already very much attached to and had been with for a while already, then I guess depending on how great the relationship is, I might try to look past it. Well it's not so much the cold sores anymore, but the MISTRUST i have in him.The majority of people get coldsores occasionally...as long as you avoid kissing and oral sex during an outbreak it's no big deal.However, I find it amusing that if you tell someone you have coldsores they don't think it's a big thing, don't even think it's an STD, whereas if you told them you had type 1 genital herpes they would freak out... The majority of people get coldsores occasionally...Many people only have an outbreak perhaps once or twice a year for maybe two weeks at a time, and you can feel it coming on so you can avoid kissing at that point. As we have both said cold sores are so common we hear the word "cold sore" and think virutally nothing but we hear the words "genital herpes" and freak out.
Even among people who know it's the same thing, they tend to see it as being dirtier if it's on the genitals than if its on the mouth, even if it was tranferred from a mouth to the genitals in the first place. I guess I fear that if my bf gives it to me then I'd transmit it to my whole family since I live at home and me and my family eat family style meals thus transfering saliva alot.