Dating mother and daughter
You want her to feel safe and comfortable to come to you and share what is going on in her life, this includes her love life.
She on the other hand will not want the same from you.
You may be single and dating or in a relationship like her.
While this creates similarities, it does not make you equals.
You're not necessarily apologizing for having sexual relations with your boyfriend or for having him spend the night.
What you are apologizing for is not talking with her ahead of time about how the two of you will live under the same roof as adults and preparing her for what some of those changes may include.
Herein is the root of the current problem with your daughter and the double standard that exists between the two of you.
Thanks for any advice, Barbara Dear Barbara, While it's true that children do grow up and leave home, changing the dynamics of the parent-child relationship. Parents will always be older and their children will always be younger.
She wants to live with him now but I told her if she was mature enough to do that, then she was mature enough to pay her own way (car, insurance, school, phone, etc.).
I'm also dating someone at the moment and we have been steadily seeing each other for 3 months.
He spent the night last Friday when my daughter was home.
She got up in the middle of the night, slamming the front door as she left for her boyfriend's house. Sunday she called saying, I should have respected her enough to let her know if my boyfriend was going to be over so she could stay away.
Let our dating coach help you see how this situation is different than normal roommates. My daughter is 20 and still living at home but stays over her boyfriend's most weekends.